BEING A GIRL - BIGGEST MISTAKE OF LIFE!

Yes. I do agree with my above words. All the wrong happening to girls is definitely our own fault. We girls are so stupid as we allow people to chase  and tease us. I think every man out there whose favorite hobby is to irritate girls, will comply with me. And why not? They are absolutely right. I am completely in their favor .
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After all we are the ones who urge men to act this way. Any boy has the right to wink at us in the street or touch us just like that. Moreover, if we look good then there is bound to be a major danger around us, and we don't care about all this even after knowing that the whole world is occupied with worthy gentlemen.

Pity at our senses. We ourselves attract them by wearing short dresses and blame them for annoying us! I feel so sorry for those men. I understand, they are such humble people that once we start wearing ''proper" clothes, they would dare not even to look at us. Right?

Our problem is that things don't go in our mind unless and until we are pressurized about something. I suggest that some kind of rule should be made for girls denying them to move out after 6 pm. Atrocious people are all around and we know that anything can happen to us anytime. And then again, we silly girls go and file a complaint against these people if they molest us, and because of us such innocent people are punished. But thanks to our Indian police who makes us realize that all this was our own mistake and we are the accused ones , not the victims.

So girls, beware! Don't come out of your houses when it's dark. But is there any guarantee that we are completely safe in daylight? No assurance about this as well. So, it's better for us to be at home all the time. Why to disturb the peace of other men unnecessarily? They are so nice people!

Whether we are in a small village or a big city, we ought to cover ourselves properly, as our clothes could be torn to pieces anytime.Since we have no safety at any place at any point of time, so lets face it now. Why to fight for all this nonsense despite knowing the fact that this is a never ending journey? Lets tolerate this till eternity.

We will have to accept that now we are left with no choice. It's been ages that we are hearing about rape cases, sexual harassment of women and even child abuse of girls. Still some ladies are living with a hope that our suffering will end one day. So please excuse me ladies, if you think this way you are fools.

But, I salute your extraordinary thinking people! On one hand you pray to goddess Durga, goddess Kali, and on the other hand you kill and degrade the Durga within us, snatch our power and do wrong to us.

Anyway, you are absolutely correct by having this mentality, and every woman will surely cooperate with you by not moving out of their houses. Although some of us are not even safe at home. No problem! We will go ahead with this kind of life. Enjoy men! We will not urge you to come towards us anymore. We will ruin our education, career and everything so that you could stay at peace.
After all we have accepted that being a girl was the biggest mistake of our life.  

THIS ABOVE ALL: TO THINE OWNSELF TO BE TRUE

The world is engulfed with a sense of artificiality, cheating and pretentious facade. When we look around, often we find people misleading and betraying  others. To expect authenticity or truthfulness from majority of the people is an expectation too high. Accepted that we have this inbuilt nature of being untrue to others, but is there any way we can at least be true to our own selves? Whatever we do, we should be faithful to ourselves. If we are on a right path and strive to be honest, we will never have that feeling of being wrong and we will be what we are.

However, there are  people who engage themselves in a certain kind of work due to which they may never realize who they are leading them to a road of confusion. Thieves, murderers, terrorists, can never be true to themselves because their work itself is to cheat others. Do you think these people are satisfied with what they are doing? Do you think they will find peace in death?They always face some kind of randomness in every situation.Why to do such things that can never provide you peace and could not allow you to be true ?  I think the most important thing is to work in such a way that allows you to be true to yourself, therein finding peace.  If we have to struggle to find what kind of a person we are, that means some way or the other we are lying to ourselves and we are not at peace with our own life.

Many a times we hear saints preach that the first and foremost thing is to search ourselves and obtain an answer to the question- WHO AM I? A lot of people may find this very silly, but if we actually work to get this answer, our life will run very smoothly.   The day we get an answer to this complicated yet unavoidable question we will be completely and purely true to ourselves.Learning and accepting oneself is the most important step which therefore helps in being true to oneself. With every step if we trust and be honest with ourselves, then knowing ourselves, we will realize, is not a tough process.

Morality is a deep value of human life because of which being true and finding truth becomes important. Its possible that we cannot always be true to others, therefore the only thing we can balance and compensate for the lies is by being true to ourselves. May be this can provide us inner peace.  Anyone can be true to himself or herself if he or she is really a genuine and a just person. For example, when a student who missed his class for some fun time was asked whether he did it on purpose, answers that he missed a class for some important work, definitely means he is lying to others. However if the very next moment he realizes that he did something which he shouldn't have done and promises to himself that he will never miss his classes again, and implements on that self made promise too, shows that he is a person who will always be true to himself. Being honest to ourselves is only helpful to us and no one else. So why not help ourselves and transform ourselves into a better person? The more we’ll be true to ourselves, the more we can teach others about it, and can make everyone a truthful person, and then that time will not be far when this hatred filled world will be an ideal place to live.

  

Writing of truth, what better example than Mahatma Gandhi's 'my experiments with truth'? His satyagrah, which means quest for truth, led him on the path of victory and this even made people to address him as a mahatma. He showed people the power of truth. If we are truthful we don’t require any force to win the battle this is what his  endeavor was. In this whole journey he was true to himself because there was not a single time when he withdrew his belief despite all the problems that came his way. On the other hand there were Britishers who were absolutely untrue to themselves. People who cause harm to others can never be true to themselves. As a result, the British colonialism fell down and at the end we were the ones who came out victorious.

We also know about a person who caused great destruction to a certain mass, Hitler. His aim was to eliminate Jews from Germany which is itself  was a very inhuman and barbaric thought because he was snatching away the real rights of people.  He didn't even realize about those people whose loved ones were made to die even after having no fault or committing no crime. Was he doing a right thing? Was he TRUE to himself? No he wasn't true to himself and could have never been .He was lying to himself and other Germans because he committed suicide instead of dying which could have been a dignified death. He killed himself out of fear that he had done wrong to people and everything was just finished. 

We all know what outcome we have to suffer by being untrue. 

When you think that you are doing something wrong you should ask yourself – am I doing right? Your inner voice will give you the answer. This question can apply for the small things and important things at the same time. Any terrorist can ask this question to himself when he explodes a bomb to take away thousand lives, or any couple who runs away from their family for marriage. If they really stop themselves from doing that immoral and false task, they are fair to themselves.

You should always be YOU! You cannot blame anyone else for your own faults. We should realize the fact that in this whole world the person whom we can trust the most is WE ourselves. A lot of conflict or instability in our life is only because we are untrue to ourselves. So, by being honest to ourselves, we can learn to change conflict and instability into stability and clarity for ourselves. There is an enlightening quote stated by  GordonMacKenzie- You have a masterpiece inside you, too, you know. One unlike any that has ever been created, or ever will be. And remember: If you go to your grave without painting your masterpiece, it will not get painted. No one else can paint it. Only you.

So it's of utmost importance to awaken now and try to discover ourselves, and above all- BE TRUE TO OURSELVES.

LIFE IS A RACE!

This is what we are taught since childhood. The moment we enter into this beautiful world, our parents go into another dream world. They start building their grand expectations from us.

"oh! my baby will be a doctor one day!.... Hers's my engineer champ!.. Aww! My child is playing teacher-teacher. I am sure you will become a well reputed professor one day! "

These things start at a very small scale and we children too enjoy the love of our parents so much. But, soon this kind of love turns to a nightmare for us. Most of the time we are served with taunts and scoldings if we fail at some point in our life.Every now and then we are made to realize that there is a huge competition around us and we have to toil hard to be the best.

In all this tension, pressure, what about our enjoyment, our happiness? It gets vanished like smoke in the air.

Don't get me wrong. I am not saying that you don't do anything in life and just live on your father's money. No. It is absolutely wrong. What my point is that, whatever you do in life , do it with pleasure. For this, all mummys and daddys have to  understand their children so that they could be at ease and in return could make their parents satisfied.

Did you ever give a thought to it? Once we enter in school life, our schedule gets completely changed according to our studies, exams and so on. We cannot go and meet our relatives whenever we want. For that, we have to wait for vacations. We cannot hangout with our friends just like that. We have to look after about our studies at the same time. We could not go out and spend a pleasant time with family because we were busy doing homework and were scared of the punishment that we may get by neglecting it. Have you ever realized that during all this we were nothing but just an alive working machine!

Accepted that we will definitely get success because of our hard work and will have our own identity.
But, we will EXIST with that identity, we will not LIVE with that. We don't realize that our soul is not cheerful and perhaps it is dead! So, what's the use of being successful like this?

Sometimes, in this pressure, tension, competition one becomes so depressed that he ends up giving his life, and if doesn't do it physically, he does it emotionally and just exists as a live-born statue. We fail to understand that the more we get tensed, the more we destroy ourselves.

We should try to create a positive approach towards life. I want everyone to be happy and live from within so that he could produce better outcomes. Do everything that you want, but always do it with a smile on your face. Don't let yourself to be a part of that huge crowd out there. Prove that you are different from others and LET YOUR LIGHT SHINE.

I do accept that life is a race, but it is not a marathon race where you take ample stress to win it. Rather it is a delightful race where there's a spoon with a marble in your mouth and there is always a risk of falling of that marble. But, when it falls, you laugh, pick it up again with your tremendous effort and nail it hard to win the race. So, from now we all have to STOP EXISTING AND START LIVING.

Be successful, be happy, and above all BE POSITIVE.